CHECKLIST FOR MUSLIM WOMEN: WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A MUSLIM MAN
It is always interesting to see the lists of what Muslimahs share on what to look for in a Muslim man and I thought I’d like to give my two cents on this topic.
Technically, I’m engaged now, Alhamdulilah, but when I was keeping my eyes open for a potential mate these were the qualities mattered the most to me.
(Keep in mind that this list is just my personal preference at the moment. I am not married yet, so there’s a chance that I have no idea what I’m talking about 😀 )
Here is my checklist:
1. Muslim
This sounds obvious but I have seen and heard about soooo many relationships that have soured because of differences in core beliefs. This was a no-brainer to me, and having this at the top of my list helped me ignore advances from unqualified candidates (LOL 😀 not like I got many of those, HAHA). As a girl who grew up in the United States, this requirement helped a lot because honestly, I didn’t even consider thinking about guys who didn’t share the same religion as me.
I couldn’t even imagine myself willing to spend the rest of my life with someone who thinks it’s okay to drink alcohol or eat bacon! It sounds so silly and trivial when you think about it because it is just food and drink, but that type of stuff really matters when you have family gatherings and kids.
2. Ambition
I don’t know about you guys, but a man with an ambition was a DEFINITE must-have for me. I would have noooo patience for a man that didn’t have a vision for his future and just complained all day about his situation…..um, no, thank you.
I think it is so beautiful (whether he is Muslim or not) when I see a guy that has a dream and is willing to put in the hours to make it happen. Hands up if you agree! If I choose to build my future with someone, I would feel more confident associating myself with a man that believes in himself and wants to get things done.
3. Communication
I know that guys get a bad reputation in regards to communication, but there is a reason this stereotype exists. Most guys just don’t know how to explain their feelings as well girls do.
I don’t expect my man to be 100% perfect, but it’s going to be hard to spend the rest of my life with someone who expects me to predict what’s on his mind, ignores the situation, or flat out by refuses to talk. I think open and frequent communication is important for couples to let their partner know if everything is okay/not okay.
Just in case you didn’t notice, I never mentioned anything about looks, money, or education. Yes, I do believe that they are all important. No one wants to be stuck with someone that looks like a gorilla and has no coins :D. However, those attributes are not as important to me than the three I have listed above.
What are the top 3 items on your checklist?